To all those who have died because of the ultimate expression of hate and transphobia:

We Will Remember!
and we will fight to defeat the ignorance and fear that were the basis of your tragic deaths.
TGDOR 2011
To all those who have died because of the ultimate expression of hate and transphobia:

We Will Remember!
and we will fight to defeat the ignorance and fear that were the basis of your tragic deaths.
TGDOR 2011
There are times when I regret having shut down my blog. They are, thus far, fairly few, but they happen, and I suppose as time goes on, they will happen less and less often.
Many of the arguments and statements that I see hurled on blogs, and in comment sections, that have anything to do with the idea of trans people, are things that in “real life” would never really happen.
It probably doesn’t hurt that most people never read blogs. Surprisingly enough, exceedingly few people — stealth or not, TG/TS/whatever, LGBT or cis/het — read LGBT blogs of any sort.
Note the use of the term “exceedingly” above. It is a specially chosen word that has a very specific purpose in that sentence.
We’re talking single digit percentages, here.
So, if you happen to be reading this, you are, *at best* in the 10% of people who actually read this stuff.
I sat down late last week with a friend of mine who is also an activist — an advocate, a person who places himself out there on behalf of LGBT people and does education and ombudsman work as well as political stuff.
At one point, he asked me a question about why it is that I even get involved in blogs in the first place. THey are a time sink, after all — and as anyone who’s read one of my responses on such can testify, for me they certainly are given I’ll spend 30 minutes answering.
I didn’t have an answer for him that met my standards for being worthwhile. I mean, now that I’ve shut down my own blog, of what value is a blog overall to me, as a person? especially a blog that belongs to someone else?
As a place to express my opinions? For the most part, my opinions are apparently not very well understood, and since I’m unwilling to reduce myself in the name of brevity, folks tend to gloss over those massive walls of text.
To comment on things I see elsewhere? Well, ultimately, on most bogs, comments are there to enable venting regarding the column. SInce most stuff on blogs consists of “oh, look at how so and so messed up now”, my comment isn’t going to exactly make a change to things.
Most of my stuff has been in response to someone else — and since apparently so few people actually understand what it is I’m saying half the time, what’s the value in that except to make me feel good in some vague “oh, someone is wrong on the internet again” way.
There’s more reward, more tangible change, more effectiveness, away from the blogs. I can make a change to most folks perceptions of trans people in 30 minutes. I can impart more education in that 30 minutes than I can writing a response to someone about something that I’ve talked about umpteen gazillion times before. Bang for the buck falls very squarely on the side of offline contact, doing the interviews and the workshops and the seminars I do.
The ginormous debate of TS/TG/etc? The overwhelming numner of trans people out there have never even heard of it. And find the entire thing to be stupid — its people arguing over a word, for god’s sake, while people are dying out here!
I love to cook for other people. When I combine that with a workshop, it is amazing what happens — all the stuff one encounters online literally evaporates.
I get asked really tough questions — questions that online are treated as “stupid” or “cruel” and that incite discourse of privilege, and racism, and so forth. And I answer them.
I am occasionally challenged on my sources, on the methodologies, on the doctors that are used. And I have that information with me when I do a workshop, whereas I seldom have it sitting in my browser or can pull it out of my brain in exacting detail on a moment’s notice.
I am the only moderator present, usually. And I have a rule — no question is to be left unanswered. And when I answer them, the facial expressions, body language, and tone all come through clearly, and I don’t have to be as specifically careful with my words as I am online.
Offline, I also have one fascinating benefit: If someone asks a question with venom, I can point out to them that the venom is counterproductive. Do that online, and you’ll get your head handed to you.
There are things you can say offline that you simply cannot say online because too many people will show up and distort the message with their own propaganda.
I can think of one response I saw regarding marriage the other day that if the person had said that in a room of people who were asking me about marriage would literally have resulted in them being dragged out of the room and ejected, because it was so horribly insulting to everyone else int eh room.
But, in the end, the online stuff comes down to one simple problem:
online, people have no manners. As a broad brush statement, it is applied to the whole set of people. So that means that there are pockets of people being polite and civil, but those are “boring”. Incivility attracts attention. Used with intent for particular effects in the midst of other courtesy, it can highlight a particular point, but for most of the LGBT blogs, when it comes to trans stuff, civility is absent. There is little to no concern for others.
And that, ultimately, shuts down conversation. More specifically, it shuts down the potential for the conversations that need to be held online.
Yet my job is, in the end, going into places that are not sae, and making them safer.
Can’t do that online. Can’t do that on blogs. Can’t do that in the comments section.
I am among a very, very few who do get involved in all that crap and *also* do hard work that sucks time and energy and leaves you with little interest in the horseshit.
And yet, I am also a writer. So I have to write stuff. And that’s likely where all this comes in.
So how can I write stuff and say things that enables me to reach that broader audience without the stuff that gets in the way?
Not by blogging. But there is value there for me in blogs — they can get the word out.
All of which, I suppose, is me gearing up for what is likely to be the end of my blogging in general — in comments and so forth, even.
People don’t want to take the time to say something important to them in a way that doesn’t piss all over someone else. And there is nothing that one can say that one cannot say it a manner that doesn’t piss all over someone.
I can say this much: were I to start a new blog, I would make, as part of the rules, the ideas behind Derailing for dummies a part of the TOS. And I would make being polite a rule, as well.
So, take a moment, if you would, and think about why you comment and why you blog, and what you gain from it, and what you hope to accomplish in doing so.
(cross-posted from Living My Life)
I hesitate to jump into these shark-infested waters, but here goes.
I certainly have my own opinion on the “transsexual” vs. “transgender” debate that has ignited many a flame war on the internet over the last few months between those who want to separate our community based on those who have had or, at least, want to have, SRS, from everyone else, but I’m not going to express that here. Instead, I’m going to take a position that I’ve never seen expressed by anyone else, although some have come close. My position comes from my background as an attorney and my understanding of how anti-discrimination laws are written and are intended to operate.
Here’s what I know to be true: the dispute about who is transsexual and who isn’t is irrelevant to the fight for protections for transsexual, transgender, genderqueer and every other gender variant or gender nonconforming person in this country. Why? Because of how anti-discrimination laws are written for both practical and constitutional reasons.
Why anti-discrimination statutes don’t use terms like “transsexual” or “transgender”
If you look at federal or state anti-discrimination laws, you’ll see something very interesting. Although the primary purpose of the Civil Rights Act of 1964 (including, Title VII, the federal ban on sex, race and other discrimination in employment) was to end discrimination against African-Americans, if you read it, you will see that nowhere does it say that it is illegal to discriminate against African-Americans. Instead, it says that it’s illegal to discriminate against anyone on the basis of race. There are two reasons for this approach.
First, using terms like African-American, Hispanic, Asian-Pacific Islander or Native American would lead to difficult, if not impossible, problems of determining in any given situation who fits into the relevant category. For example, I have a friend who identifies as both African-American and Native American. However, upon seeing her, many people may doubt that she is anything but “white.” So, where should the cut-off be? Should it 1/8 or 1/64 native or African-American blood, which is the cut-off used by some Native American tribes for tribal membership? Should it be how the person self-identifies? Or should it be whatever a court or jury, employer or shelter operator decides a particular person is? Our courts are already bogged down enough; we don’t need to compound that problem by introducing such difficult, and, ultimately, unnecessary, issues.
Using such vague categories leads us to the second reason why such categories aren’t used in anti-discrimination laws: statutes that are so ambiguous that they allow for arbitrary distinctions and enforcement are “void for vagueness” under the Due Process Clauses of state and federal constitutions. In other words, if whether one person is or isn’t protected depends on distinctions that can’t be made on any sort of objective basis, so that different people may reasonably interpret and apply the law in different ways, the statute is void and unenforceable.
In addition, there is another constitutional problem with using terms like African-American in anti-discrimination laws. If a statute protects only people who fall into one racial category, but not another, what you have done is enshrine in the law the very racial discrimination that you are trying to eliminate. That, in turn, makes the statute unconstitutional as a violation of equal protection under both state and federal constitutions. Therefore, for a statute meant to eliminate racial discrimination to be constitutional, you have to ban all racial discrimination, not just discrimination against the particular minority group or groups you are most concerned about protecting. That’s why the Civil Rights Act of 1964 and other federal, state and local anti-discrimination laws make it illegal to discriminate on the basis of “race,” not particular racial categories. In other words, by protecting everyone against such discrimination, you avoid claims that the statue violates equal protection. The other benefit of that approach relates to the first problem discussed above. By using broad categories like “race,” you eliminate the need to decide what race someone belongs to.
For the same constitutional and practical reasons, the 1964 Civil Rights Act and other anti-discrimination laws don’t ban discrimination against women; instead, they ban discrimination against anyone, male or female, man or woman, based on “sex.”
Lastly, and, perhaps, most importantly, this approach fulfills one of the most important founding principles of our county: the belief in “equal justice for all,” not just the rich, not just whites, and not just men, and not just those who are poor, black or female.
How does this apply to protections for trans people?
What does all this mean when we start talking about protecting members of the trans community (however broadly or narrowly you want to define that community) from discrimination because of who we are? If anti-discrimination statutes intended to protect our community used terminology like “transsexual” or “transgender,” whenever any of us tried to invoke those protections, we would find ourselves in the same endless discussions about what those terms mean and who belongs in which category that have been taking place over the last several months, and which I believe are highly damaging to the goal of ensuring that we can all live our lives as who we are. Any such statute would, thus, be unconstitutional as both “void for vagueness” and a violation of equal protection. Why equal protection? Because everyone has a gender, gender identity and gender expression. Therefore, everyone should be protected against discrimination on that basis, since none of those characteristics are relevant to whether a particular person can do a particular job or should be allowed to buy a house or rent an apartment, regardless of how they identify. (As for the problem of bathrooms and other sex-segregated facilities, see below.)
Consequently, when you look at the proposed Employment Nondiscrimination Act (ENDA) or any of the state or local statutes protecting our community from discrimination, you’ll see that most of them ban discrimination based on “gender identity” or “gender identity and expression,” not based on whether someone is “transsexual” or “transgender.” (A few subsume those categories under the definition of “sexual orientation” and then prohibit discrimination based on that term.) Under this approach, everyone is protected against discrimination based on their gender identity (i.e., the gender they identify as internally), regardless of whether or how that identity is expressed outwardly, and against discrimination based on their appearance, mannerisms and other behavior that are interpreted by others as an expression of gender, regardless of the person’s gender identity. In other words, everyone has a gender identity and a gender expression; therefore, everyone is protected against discrimination on that basis. Thus, the housewife who is too harried with housework and delivering kids to and from school to put on makeup or a dress can’t be kicked out of the grocery store for wearing her husband’s flannel shirt and buzz cutting her hair because she doesn’t have time to care for it (or simply likes it that way.) Similarly, the straight man who, for whatever reason, talks with a lisp or has what others see as effeminate gestures, and the straight woman who has a square jaw, large hands and feet and facial hair, are protected from discrimination simply because someone decides they’re not masculine or feminine enough to qualify as a man or a woman. Those people, too, suffer the effects of prejudice deriving from our society’s gender norms and deserve protection against discrimination just as much as trans people.
(One of the most famous cases relevant to protecting trans people against discrimination involved a cisgender woman, not a trans woman. In that case – Price Waterhouse v. Hopkins, Ann Hopkins was a CPA working for the accounting firm who was eligible to become a partner. She was denied partnership, however, because some of the existing partners thought she was too aggressive for a woman, and needed to dress and act more femininely. When she got to the U.S. Supreme Court, the Court held that Price Waterhouse had violated the ban on sex discrimination under Title VII by discriminating against her because she failed to comply with the “sex stereotypes” held by the existing partners for how women should look and act. This is the legal theory that has since been applied to protect trans people against discrimination under state and federal statutes that ban sex discrimination, even though they don’t explicitly bar discrimination based on gender identity or expression. The best and most recent example of this is Diane Schroer’s decisive victory over the Library of Congress.)
But what about bathrooms?
But what about sex-segregated facilities like bathrooms, locker rooms and showers? Personally, I wish we could do away with such segregation and people could just get over their discomfort and fear concerning their own and other people’s bodies and bodily functions. That’s not likely to happen in my lifetime, however, and sex-segregated facilities are going to continue to exist. So what do we do?
When we are challenged for entering a restroom, it’s because someone doesn’t think we look feminine or masculine enough, or, if you wish, because we look too masculine or feminine, for the sex that restroom is designated for. When those who oppose trans women’s use of women’s restrooms are asked why, they invariably respond with fears about men in the women’s room and the risk of rape or other sexual predation. When pressed, they will usually expand that by explaining that they don’t want anyone with a penis in the women’s room. But, of course, no one knows what genitalia any of us, cis or trans, carries when we use such spaces (at least, not in the absence of criminal activity or a close, personal relationship). Instead, people decide who is a man or a woman based on their perception of the other’s gender expression (clothes, makeup, mannerisms, etc.) and visible portions of the person’s body (face, hands, feet, etc.), and then make the assumption that this person must have a penis or a vagina and, therefore, is a man or a woman. It is this process that leads to masculine women and effeminate men, whether gay or straight, being confronted, ejected and even arrested for using a restroom for which, if anatomy is the determining factor, they are certainly qualified to use. It is also this process that results in post-op trans women, and, less frequently, trans men, being subjected to the same treatment even though a “panty check” would reveal the same genitalia as the intended users of that space. Finally, it is because this process results in even post-op trans people being excluded from sex-segregated facilities to which their genitalia should give them access that limiting trans people’s access to such facilities based on whether they have had genital surgery, or plan to do so at some point in the future, is unworkable. (It also grants doctors, psychiatrists, therapists and/or the government the power to determine who is and is not “woman” or “man” enough to use such facilities, a power I am not willing to cede to anyone.)
So, again, what do we do about sex-segregated facilities? Here’s my proposal: If the statutes we pass bar discrimination based on gender identity and/or expression, then it is unlawful to deny someone access to a bathroom, for example, simply because someone thinks that person’s gender expression isn’t masculine or feminine enough for that space. In other words, if someone is presenting as a woman, she has the right to use the women’s room, and vice versa for men’s rooms, regardless of whether zie is post-op, pre-op or non-op, and regardless of whether zie identifies as transsexual, transgender, genderqueer, crossdresser, drag queen or whatever other gender category zie cares to claim. Since, barring illegal activity or a close, personal relationship, no one knows what’s in another person’s pants, if it’s wrong to exclude a butch, cisgender woman from a women’s room, then it’s equally wrong to exclude anyone expressing hir gender as a woman from that same space. In either case, the exclusion would be based not on the person’s actual anatomy, but on someone else’s assumptions and prejudice about who is “really” a woman. Our country has always opposed unequal treatment based on personal assumptions or prejudices about who is and isn’t entitled to the benefits of our society, and I see no reason that we should deviate from that principle when it comes to sex-segregated facilities. (Of course, the same arguments apply to men’s rooms and people who present as men.)
Okay, you say, that takes care of bathrooms. What about showers and locker rooms where nudity sometimes takes place? Here, I believe the best solution is that proposed in ENDA, since it gives proper respect both to concerns about personal privacy and to each individual’s gender identity. As introduced, ENDA contains a specific exclusion that provides that an employer’s “denial of access toshared shower or dressing facilities in which being seen unclothed is unavoidable” would not violate that statute, “provided that the employer provides reasonable access to adequate facilities that are not inconsistent with the employee’s gender identity” at the time the person was hired or as established by a later notice to the employer “that the employee has undergone or is undergoing gender transition.” (ENDA, Sec.8(a)(3); my italics.) In other words, employers could continue to maintain sex-segregated locker rooms and showers. However, in determining who is allowed access to the men’s or women’s facilities, the employer must recognize the employee’s announced gender identity with the sole exception that, where nudity is “unavoidable,” the employer may require someone whose presence may make other employees uncomfortable to use separate facilities, but only if those separate facilities conform to the person’s gender identity. (In other words, an employer couldn’t make a trans woman use the men’s locker room, or vice versa. Note also, that this could be applied to cisgender, not just trans, men and women. When butch women and effeminate men start getting excluded from the men’s and women’s locker rooms, I suspect that we’ll win over quite a few allies to the idea that segregation based on someone else’s perception of our gender expression is patently ridiculous.)
(Some people reading this may wonder how this principle applies with respect to things like dress codes. Basically, if an employee is hired as a man, ENDA allows the employer to require him to conform to the dress code for men until such time as the employee informs the employer that zie is transitioning to female, or vice versa. (Sec. 8(a)(5).) After the employee transitions to living full time in hir affirmed gender, zie must then conform to the dress code for that gender. This scheme is actually quite elegant and workable in practice. In addition, it has the advantage of not requiring the transitioning employee to prove to the employer that zie is “really” a woman or vice versa by providing a letter from a doctor or therapist, or proving zie has undergone SRS, hormone therapy or any other medical treatment. Instead, it allows the employee complete freedom to work as the person zie knows hirself to be, without interference or second-guessing by anyone else.)
So, there it is. It isn’t necessary to determine whether someone is transsexual, transgender or anything else to provide legal protections for everyone, cis or trans, against arbitrary discrimination because zie doesn’t fit someone else’s concepts of who is “really” a woman or a man, or to determine who can use sex-segregated bathrooms and other facilities. Therefore, I, for one, intend to ignore that debate and get on with the business of enacting fair and just legal protections that allow all of us to simply be who we are.
I had, for some damn fool reason, figured that people would finally realize to leave me the hell out of the stupid who is and who isn’t arguments and the whole asinine concept that somehow transsexuals are being erased by whatever other form of trans person there is out there when I ended writing on my blog.
Like I said, damn fool reason.
Instead, one side brought it back to me, and it has been brought back to me with a renewed vigor, and it posits that I am, in some amazing, magical way (I suppose because of people on that side dubbing me the Oz of Transgender) to be counted among the people that are most dangerous to their dogma. Or at the very least as people they just really don’t like because I’m not one to suffer fools gladly for the most part.
And there is much within that dogma that I do have problems with because it is the dogma of the unreasonable, the uninformed, and the ignorant.
Take, for example, the use of the phrase “medical condition“. Many of these same people will tell you that they oppose the DSM inclusion, and they will argue with you that it is not medical.
When, in fact, the DSM is a book that is entirely medical, and is created by a field of medical people who have to follow all the rules and ethics of medicine, and deal with all the laws around medicine, and when it comes to the APA that produces the book — where the P stands for Psychiatric — that these are people who have to do clinical work and study just like any other doctor. These are people who look at “erectile dysfunction” and wonder why it is in there because there’s no “physical” aspect to it, forgetting that it is in there because there is a physical aspect to it.
In the last few days I’ve seen fuckwittery of a startling degree in many areas and from people who I’m startled to see do it. From the asinine and incoherent dogma of “psychiatry isn’t medical” to things like “transgenders think this and transsexuals think this”, all of it is, in the end, one great big huge steaming pile of equine feces. The recent post at my old digs by Mercedes is a very good post, and came at a fascinating time. It shows that there is a community that exists around transness and that everyone is a part of it, even if they don’t feel like they are a part of the sub-groups and phenotypes and categories therein. And these people often missed the point that she raised — a point I’ve raised in the distant past and will probably raise again in the future — that beneath all the idiocy and foolishness, underneath the use of terms like “fetish” and ableist language, beneath the thick swath of lookism and internalized transphobia that causes them to misgender, beneath the vulgar and insipid base truth that they do this to make themselves feel better, there very well could be a real point.
And it was around that time that I started using the term “trans”, instead of transgender. The later categorization that I did came later — and despite the attempts they’ve made, they are unable to answer, accurately, simple questions like “what is sex”, “what is a woman”, and so forth.
And it is not a community that is built on identity, either — as the constant use of the terms identity in all the internal battling shows: if it were about identity, then there would not be a need to split as it would have never been unified. The lessons of people of mixed race have been ignored. The lessons ofthe lighter skinned people who are still black have been ignored.
There’s one peson who calls manyof this type of people white women. And while its not entirely accurate, it very much describes the cultural concepts and the ethnocentric viewoint that dominates that particular viewpoint. And it is very much an ethnocentric viewpoint, based entirely on USian values and ideas, and it functionally erases the identities of other people who are transsexual (who are then labeled as not transsexual, or who have articles written on them three years after the fact where people say they are “just now” claiming to be transsexual, thus literally erasing those people’s identities and resulting in the incoherence I noted earlier, as one cannot have a coherent belief system that is logically sound if one is going to say that using “transgender” erases others when that same person then goes around to other people and informs them that they aren’t “good enough” or that they are “betraying” or that they simply aren’t transsexual when that person actively identifies as such — see that earlier link for four people who are transsexuals and who are being described as transgender with transgender being used as a negative and lesser statement). It is a viewpoint that functions on the basis of all the intersections that I’ve written so much about in the past: racism, ethnocentrism, sexism, heteronormativity, assimilationism, and so forth.
The other recent thing I got was that I’m somehow uses “trans” as a replacement for “transgender” — that I’m inventing a new umbrella. Which is falsehood, for one, as I’m not inventing diddly here, and idiocy for another since they inevitably fail to understand the distinction here.
Is “car” an umbrella term? Or is it a generic appellation applied to a wide range of vehicles?
Is Apple and umbrella term — or is it used to describe a particular segment of pomaceous fruit?
Is Woman an umbrella term or does it only apply to a particular segment of the population — and what is the line there when even the best and brightest minds in the world throughout history have failed to come up with a definition that meets all people’s needs?
Those are not, to me, umbrella terms.
They are descriptive terms used to help us communicate certain things. To me, by the same logic I’m hearing from these people, the term “words” is an umbrella term.
And when I ask thoe questions, they are ignored in favor of some other thing that the person want’s to talk about, the discourse shifting to something entirely different and unrelated to actually answering the questions I’ve asked.
Then again, on the flipside, I’m also told that the term trans is so ambiguos as to be useless — you know, like car, apple, and woman are so utterly useless and yet are incredibly ambiguous.
These are not social justice advocates doing this. These are not people who are actually involved in the work, right now, that is needed — work which does not, in the end, actually involve talking to the trans community directly. It involves talking to the wider community. These are people that are spending their time and their energy and their effort to talk to the community they are part of by the simple act of speaking to it, because this is a community that is based on an information economy — one of our currencies is information, our trade is in information and support and it is critical to remember that this is a community forged not by its own internal working, but by the circumstance and pressures of the wider world.
I referred to these people not too long ago as the conservative branch of the trans community. And they are — rather than understanding and supporting the combined effort of all these groups, they scream and holaer that some of these groups shouldn’t be in there, and they seek to make an assimilationsit change tothe politics internally, forgetting that those politics are not defined internally, but externally.
The trans community exists because of the oppression that is engaged in against it by the cis world around it. Remove that pressure, and it will fade away.
And note that they are very much a part of the trans community because they are involved in a dialog with it *about* it and are trying to effect change within it.
That this change is ostracizing is irrelevant to them -= instead they speak about boundaries. Save that boundaries which are healthy bondaries are not carved out at the expense of others (as anyone who teaches a good boundary class will tell you), which is what is being done.Then I’m told that I hate them, that I am their enemy, and they always follow this witht hings about me which are literally untrue, and always come from something they’ve added intot he discourse. Such as someone recently saying that I identify as a transsexual on my campaign website. I do not identify as a transsexual there. I state that I am a transsexual. That isn’t a statement of identity, and only an asswipe is going to somehow magically create the idea that saying such *is* identifying as that. It is a statement of description only — and its an accurate one.
I’m told by people that Autumn Sandeen isn’t a transsexual, that Monica Roberts isn’t a transsexual, that Ashley Love isn’t a transsexual, that Hexydezimal isn’t a transsexual, that Donna Rose isn’t a transsexual, that anyone who disagrees withtheir view of who is and who isn’t a transsexual isn’t a transsexual, and they all point fingers and yet all of them forget one very, very important thing:I don’t give a flying fuck who is and who isn’t a transsexual.
I read stuff like this:
Transgender goals are completely flipped from ours in that they seek to entrench gender as a pseudo-replacement for sex (pretty much at the beck and call, as well as a *great* side effect of their laziness for the psych institution end of things), whereas we are looking to have sex representation and work with allies like intersex people to build a sex centered community.
and I have to wonder if they truly understand just how wrong they are, and when I try to correct them, I’m told no, no its absolutely the case, and that I’m just spouting more dogma.
It doesn’t matter that this literally flies in the face of the fact that as a sociologist, everything I’ve ever written about is very specific — female/male is sex, masculine/feminine is gender, and the two are separate. And I can say, absolutely, that I have asked them pointed questions, and been given answers that indicates they literally do not understand what sex and gender are. That they do not understand the very semantic arguments they are using, that they are at best half informed and meeting the old standard of a half educated person is worse than a fully educated one.
But if anyone were to push me, they’d find out that I’m likely to describe as not a transsexual anyone who spends any amount of time saying that so and so isn’t a transsexual. And *mean* it. Especially when the modus operandi of the inquisitors seeking purity is to shoot them all and let god sort ‘em out.
And here’s why I don’t care: it doesn’t make a diffference. One can argue about who’s who and who’s what and what name to use and how many different desriptions and who couts and who doesn’t until the cows come home to nest in hell. That is, after all, how it came to be that one 64th meant you were black. It is, after all, why I’ve had to deal with internalizing racism and why I’ve had to face the painful and often abusive aspects of colorism. This is just more of the same, an ongoing series of purity tests that no one can ever possibly meet unless they match the ideological measures.
In the end, its still people crapping on you. In the end, it is supposed to be all about making the laws fairer and the society more tolerant for people who’ve already gone through the hard part. When what people like myself are working towards is making that stuff happen so that no one has to go through the hard part. THe hard part is wrong.
And sorry, but that means what they are doing is making it harder to people who are transsexual to begin their transition.
The essentialism that is rampant is dangerous. The Dogma that screams for this particular creed to be followed is asinine, and, as the quote above shows, it is very much a creed based on essentilaism. But, in the end, here’s the thing: one cannot be seeking the liberties and freedoms for all trans folk if one is not including the liberties and freedoms for them.
They have a right to go off and decide on their own who is and who isn’t a member of their little clique, their personal coterie. They even have the right to try and lay claim to the terminology they choose to term — be it HBS, or Classic transsexual, or just plain transsexual.
They do not have the right to determine who gets to use that term, and for what purpose, or when, or where — even when it comes to describing someone they don’t want it used on. In doing that, they cross the line into limiting other’s freedom of expression — and they begin to decide that what someone identifies as for themselves is their business. As they have done with people already — people who do things like put themselves in harms way for them.
It is not. So then they say “well, they shouldn’t identify that way because its wrong” — really? You want to tell someone how to identify? That literally what they are saying when they use that line — for it to be wrong, they are making a judgment that they are literally not qualified or competent to make about another person.
I’m a native person — but only a bit more than a quarter. You going to tell me that I shouldn’t identify as Lakota or Cherokee because its wrong when you don’t even know jack shit about my family?
I do not run up to white folks who say they are two spirit and tell them to stop — I mean, how am I to know their background?
Or they say that ‘well, its all about behavior’ — except that now they are policing other people’s behaviors, and I can note very easily that in doing so they open their own behaviors to policing, and none of them would be able to survive my policing intact because the rules I live by are going to bury them. Pointedly so — they literally could not live by the rules I have to live by any more than the people they decide that about could live by theirs. And if it is about behavior, then why do they say it is about sex?
I won’t get into details, but let’s just say that some of the more popular people involved here are people who if challenged on things they have done would mean I would have to defend them. Some of these people were “chasers” before they transitioned, others have engaged in sex work. Others deny it, but are known to have come up through the cross dressing community. And, most interestingly, most of them — especially from the previous wave of them, are not open about who they are or they dance through various names and accounts. They exist pretty much entirely online — much like Amina or Paula Brooks, who were recently exposed as cis men posing as women on a very popular lesbian blog.
Forget that they often want to say that people that live in cultures and times long ago and far away that literally have little relationship to the culture and people of the US (gee, and they probably wonder why the term “USian” was coined) — let’s just reflect on the fact that they seek to portray a concept that is classist, privileged, and based in concepts and ideals that ultimately erase the value and importance of people of color.
But to them, those concepts are bad – and they fall into the anti-intellectualism of the day. It is an unending cycle of ignorance.
I encountered one of the more popular people in this grouping the other day, and in the course of a brief conversation I asked her a question. I’ve asked it of other people as well.
Let’s say that there was a law, already on the books, that could, in one fell swoop, fix all the laws in the US as far as Trans people under their description of “medical issue” so that things like employment, surgical availality, hormones, housing, etc etc etc all came to pass. To make this law apply, all one has to do is to remove a few words. One of those lines specifically says that transsexuals are excluded from that law. By name. Doesn’t say anything about transgender people, I’ll note. It says
transvestism, transsexualism, pedophilia, exhibitionism, voyeurism, gender identity disorders not resulting from physical impairments, or other sexual behavior disorders;
Just by doing this little bit, suddenly this law would make happen all the legal stuff that activists have been working hard at doing. But it is a very unpopular concept.
You see, to make it happen, one would have to rely on the medical condition aspect — and one would have to admit that they have been severely impaired in a critical life function (such as being able to live honestly and correctly and facing pain, despair, and all the rest if they cannot). But even for them, this won’t fly, because it has to be recognized as things stand right now. Right this minute. Which means they’ll have to recognize that it is an issue of the medical field of mental health.
In short, they would have to accept the cis derived narrative of their being mentally ill to make this happen. The law is the ADA. The person I spoke to — a leader, mind you — had never heard of this. Nearly every major activist out there for years has. Most of the people who do the hard work of trying to really make things better have heard of this — hell, its why we rejoiced at the death of Jesse Helms.
It is one example of what I talk abot when I say uninformed. Current Dogma is holding that the ADA would be bad — it would fix trans lives as crazy and bad. They don’t realize that medicalizing *is* pathologizing.
They do not get that reduction of that really can only happen in an unpleasant and for them seemingly invalidating way.
But here’s the last bit, as well — it doesn’t matter. The fights are all internal, and the battle that needs to be held is external, and not with each other because then nobody moves forward since it will be a division. So when you have people trying to tell you who is and who isn’t, who counts and who doesn’t, who is “good” for us and who is “bad” for us, who makes us look bad and who makes us look good, remember that they only reality in all of it is that the good and bad ideas come from people and institutions who hold that all of us are no different from each other, that we are all freaks, and that all of us should be thrown off the planet or “fixed” — with fixed being dead an ok result.
To forget that is to invite hell into the living room, and to lose sight of what it meant when “first they came for…” was written…
Hi there
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Remember me? I’m the evil Oz of Transgender.
Although my blog is closed, I still write here, though I’ve been occupied and not done so for a while. Let’s get back to things, shall we?
And to start, we’ll point out a bit of stuff regarding the recent airing of “The Sissy Boy Syndrome” on CNN. If you missed it, here’s the first of three parts:
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Some notes for you to remember below the fold…
(crossposted in http://emelyes-kitchen.blogspot.com/ )
I won’t be going to Albany next week.
The Empire State Pride Agenda (ESPA) has decided to sponsor an “Equality and Justice Day” again this year (they didn’t do one last year) on Monday, May 9th. I’ve been to two of these events before and I won’t be going this year.
I thought about going. I even made plans to do it and made a commitment that I will be breaking, something I do not do lightly. The unwillingness to go was present before I figured out the motivations behind it. I was hemming and hawing about right up into the deadline for registration.
What sealed my decision was yet another email from ESPA about the upcoming event. I’d received a number of these emails before and they were all very similar to what I’ve seen over the past few years:
MarriageEquality MarriageEquality MarriageEquality MarriageEquality MarriageEquality MarriageEquality MarriageEquality MarriageEquality MarriageEquality MarriageEquality MarriageEquality MarriageEquality Gender MarriageEquality MarriageEquality MarriageEquality MarriageEquality MarriageEquality MarriageEquality MarriageEquality MarriageEquality MarriageEquality MarriageEquality MarriageEquality MarriageEquality MarriageEquality MarriageEquality MarriageEquality MarriageEquality MarriageEquality GENDA MarriageEquality MarriageEquality MarriageEquality MarriageEquality MarriageEquality MarriageEquality MarriageEquality MarriageEquality MarriageEquality MarriageEquality GENDA MarriageEquality MarriageEquality MarriageEquality MarriageEquality etc.
Then, the last missive from ESPA had the following (paraphrased), “. . . marriage equality being a life and death issue for them.”
That little piece of bullshit sealed my decision. After nine years of waiting to get gender identity protections under the law that gave the same to cis GLB people in 2002, after all the misery and pain and the Deity knows how many deaths that NY trans people have suffered because they couldn’t find a job, or were humiliated by being thrown out of a bathroom, or were made homeless by some intolerant landlord and complaining tenants, I heard the head of ESPA write that the convenience of being married in the state you reside is a matter of life and death??? Sorry, they can go do for themselves without my help.
I’ve become convinced that, in New York State at least, trans LGB and straight people will not get equal protections until in-state marriage convenience/equality is achieved. Yeah, most of the cis people who are working for marriage equality will then go home. Yes, most of the resources of the cis GLB political community will go on to other things. But then, at the very least, the issue of civil rights protections for gender vairiant New Yorkers will have the space to be seen and heard without the looming, oxygen depleting issue of marriage rights muffling the voices and drowning out the cries of the afflicted.
I’ve always maintained that the best way to separate your true friends from those who really don’t care a whole lot is to change your sex. The passing of the marriage equality issue in NY will do the same. The true friends and allies of the trans community will keep working, no matter how few in number they may be. Of course, winning on this issue will be difficult. It’ll take more time. More trans people, including myself, will suffer the consequences of being an unprotected but vulnerable minority. The huge distraction, however, of false friends who pay lip service while pushing you to the back of the room – and all too often out the back door – will be gone. The selfish political activists who work only for their own immediate gain in marriage equality, at the expense of others, will have gone home. And then, only then, will the trans community and its true allies be able to be heard.
In the meantime I’ll visit my state representatives when they are in the local area and will write them legible handwritten letters about the vital importance of civil rights protections for gender identity. As an afterthought, I might even mention how stupid it is to grant same sex couples full marriage equality when they get married in another state or country where it’s legal but not allow the ceremony performed in-state to be legally recognized. Hopefully then, when the marriage equality brass band has stopped blaring in their ears, they may actually start to listen, having hear some faint echos about the issues before!
Via Transgender Legal Defense & Education Fund:
Updated Equal Employment Opportunity Policy Bars Discrimination Based on Gender Identity
TLDEF applauds the United States Department of Labor’s announcement yesterday that it has taken steps to protect its transgender workers from employment discrimination. The Department of Labor added gender identity as a protected category in its equal employment opportunity statement. The policy applies to all hiring, promotion and disciplinary practices for the approximately 17,000 employees of the Department of Labor.
“Whether in private or public employment, what matters is not who you are, but how you do your job,” said TLDEF executive director Michael Silverman. “The Department of Labor now joins the many public and private employers that have recognized that discrimination is bad business. We applaud Labor Secretary Hilda Solis for her leadership on this issue.”
Transgender people face tremendous discrimination in the workplace. In a recent survey, 47% of transgender people reported being fired, or denied a job or promotion, just because of who they are. In a recent case, TLDEF filed a lawsuit on behalf of a transgender man who was fired from a male-only job solely because he is transgender.
“Employers like the Department of Labor set an example for other employers to follow. It is a great day when diversity is embraced and discrimination is rejected in the workplace,” added Silverman.
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Cross-posted at Questioning Transphobia
http://www.birdofparadox.net/blog/?p=9777
*!Trigger Warning: video extremely violent.!*
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***UPDATED*** Woman brutally beaten for using women’s toilet in fast-food restaurant
Trigger warning: violence against trans women
Restroom panic, sometimes also known as bathroom panic; the terms mean the same. They refer to the sense of moral outrage and indignation experienced by some cis people on realising that trans people (generally trans women) use the same public toilets as they do. It’s an irrational fear grounded in the transphobic notion that trans women, regardless of our legal, medical or surgical status should be denied access to restrooms consistent with our gender presentation.
http://www.birdofparadox.net/blog/?p=9714
(From BOP):
Over the past three years I’ve written at length about the likely impact on TS/TG people of the revisions proposed for the forthcoming fifth version of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders(DSM-5). Although the DSM originates in the US, it is internationally recognised and the criteria it uses to categorise many medical conditions are generally adhered to worldwide. And although it is far from perfect, it also formalises access to medical services, including GPs, therapists, medication and surgery. For example, the comparatively few rights and protections that exist for people diagnosed as having Gender Identity Disorder (GID) are there mainly because they are in the DSM.
But the proposed revisions aren’t limited to the area of gender identity; far from it. From Adjustment Disorders to Eating Disorders, Mood Disorders to Substance-Related Disorders, there’s a wide range of medical conditions under review. Included in this list of categories is Generalized Anxiety Disorder, which Bruce Jancin has written about at Family Practice News. Mr Jancin suggests that the proposed changes could have a much wider impact than is perhaps realised:
Generalized anxiety disorder, already the most common of the anxiety disorders, could double in prevalence in clinical practice with adoption of changes now under consideration for the coming edition of psychiatry’s diagnostic and statistical manual, the DSM-5.
His basis for saying this is that there are two aspects of the DSM-5 proposal that would lower the threshold for the diagnosis. First, there is a reduction in the required duration of anxiety symptoms from the DSM-IV’s 6 months to just 3 months and second, the number of required associated symptoms would be only 1 out of 4, rather than the more stringent DSM-IV criterion of 3 out of 6.
Other changes under consideration include deleting sleep disturbances and irritability from the list of associated symptoms on the grounds that they are insufficiently specific. The work group also is weighing reintroduction of dimensional attributes such as anxiety and depression to serve as adjuncts to the current categorical attributes.
“If there’s any psychiatric diagnosis where a dimension is relevant, it’s GAD, where some social animals – and not only humans – are just born with a greater propensity to manifest anxiety in response to normal stimuli,” [Dr. Alan J. Gelenberg of the department of psychiatry at Pennsylvania State University] observed.
Commenting on Bruce Jancin’s article at Psychiatric Times, Allen Frances MD points out where this might lead in reality – and it makes disturbing reading:
Why is this such a bad idea? The symptoms of GAD are extremely nonspecific and very common in the general population. They merge imperceptibly into the expectable worries of every day life and the normal reactions to common stressors. There are simply no bright lines separating someone who has a real mental disorder from the normal worry wart or the person with a lot of problems that actually do need worrying about. Any rapid expansion of the diagnosis of GAD will surely capture many of these false positive individuals who do not have clinically significant symptoms that require mental health diagnosis or treatment– people who would be better off left alone without further intervention.
But the way the world works, most people who get mislabelled will likely wind up receiving medication– usually antidepressants, and sometimes the much more problematic antianxiety drugs. Mild anxiety symptoms have a very high placebo response rate (around 50%)–quite close to the response rate achieved by medication. Although the majority of patients mislabelled as having GAD will not actually need medication, they will often receive it and may feel compelled to stay on it for the long term– with all the attendant unnecessary side effects, complications, cost, and stigma.
The thing to remember that there is not a pill for every worry or life problem and that pills can sometimes make things worse. Of note, DSM-5 is also suggesting another related change that will lead to even greater diagnostic inflation–a new disorder mixing common symptoms of anxiety and depression and requiring a remarkably short duration of only 2 weeks. Taken together, the 2 changes would capture a large segment of the worried well.
But it’s the closing paragraph which resonates most strongly with me, given what I’ve seen of the way the Sexual and Gender Identity Disorders Work Group under the aegis of Ken Zucker has approached its task:
In the preparation of DSM-5, the experts on the work groups have been given far too much freedom and far too little supervision. Their suggestions for changes are supported by cursory and one sided reviews that seize on the occasional study and ignore all that is unknown or contrary. Suggested changes should have been subjected to the much more stringent standards of evidence based medicine as applied by independent reviewers. The DSM-5 field trials should have been designed specifically to study the crucial question of impact on rates, not the fairly trivial question of reliability. A searching risk/benefit analysis needs to be done on each suggestion.
What is clearly broke and cries out for fixing is the DSM-5 process itself.
I can’t help but agree with that commentary – labelling the “worried well” as “disordered” seems to me to be blatant pathologisation and, if my experience in the five years since I was medically diagnosed as transsexual are any guide, I would expect such a labelling to lead to social stigmatisation from many perhaps unexpected quarters. However, given that field trials to test the new diagnostic criteria have now been underway since December 2010, I for one am not optimistic about the chances of a wholescale overhaul of any of the proposals for any of the categories ahead of the full publication of the DSM-5 in May 2013.
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